Child Custody Questions and How the Answers Will Help You Win Custody of Your Kids

The world of child custody can be very daunting and actually very mind boggling for most parents. Add to that the stress and depression of not having your kids with you or going through a divorce and we are talking meltdown for a lot of people. If you are in a custody battle for your kids then having answers to your child custody questions is a critical first step if are to succeed.

In this article I’m going to go over answers to some of the most common child custody questions from parents like you.

A common mistake parents make is rushing out and hiring the first lawyer they find an relying on their expertise completely to win their custody battle. Unfortunately even attorneys don’t have all the answers to child custody questions or they are not up to date with the most current strategies. That is why your first step to winning custody of your kids should be research. With the age of the internet, research is a whole lot easier than it was in the past.

I’ve put together some of the most common child custody questions:

1. What are the different types of child custody

  • Joint Legal Custody – Both parents are entitled to make major decisions about their children’s lives (health, education, etc.)
  • Sole Legal Custody – One parent alone has complete legal authority to make major decisions for their children.
  • Sole Physical Custody – Is when the child lives with one parent on a regular basis with the other parent having visitation rights.
  • Joint Physical Custody – Is when the child lives with each parent for a substantial part of the year (not necessarily 50/50).

2. What standards do the courts take into account when determining custody? The overwhelming principle is the “best interest of the child”

3. How does the court decide the “best interest of the child?” Depending on your child’s age, the primary factors of determining the best interest of the child are

  • The child’s interactions and quality of relationship with his or her parents.
  • The child’s involvement in his or her school and neighborhood and whether placement with either parent would disruptive.
  • The health (mental and physical) of the parents.
  • The parent that is more likely to encourage and facilitate custody visitation rights of the other parent. (This is a big one)
  • The residence location of either parent in relation to the child’s existing city or state and/or if one parent is planning to move too far away.
  • Whether or not either parent has made process of making child support payments difficult.
  • The wishes of the child (depending on age) but this will not hold a lot of weight unless the child is older.

4. Do children get to choose which household to live in? Basically, No. Judges will definitely consider their wishes depending on age but will not base custody solely on a child’s preference.

5. Can my child be used as a witness in court? Yes they can. Most states give some consideration to the child’s wishes.

6. Is the mother more likely to get custody? Yes, even in today’s society. There are many exceptions though and fathers are gaining more custody rights as time goes on.

7. If joint physical custody is awarded, does that mean no one pays child support? Absolutely Not. Child support is determined separately from custody arrangements and is based on levels of income.

8. If my spouse is behind on child support can I restrict visitations? Definitely not. Visitation rights and child support are treated separately. You still must honor the visitation agreement and then pursue child support separately.

9. Can I stop paying child support if my spouse won t let me see my kids? No. You must still pay child support and pursue a contempt violation of the custody agreement separately.

10. What is the purpose of a custody evaluation? The primary function of a custody evaluation is to assist the court in determining what arrangements will meet the best interests of the child. They consider family and individual factors that may affect the physical and psychological interests of the child.

11. What if my ex has sole physical custody and wants to move out of state with the kids? A custodial parent must petition the court to change the custody order and ask for permission to leave the state with the child.

One of the keys to winning custody of your children is being prepared and organized. Don’t leave everything up to your attorney. By doing your own research and being a partner with your attorney, you can significantly increase your chances of winning custody of your children.

Children’s Health – Brain Development Disorder – Definition and Types

I. Definition

A neurodevelopmental disorder is defined as an impairment of the growth and development of the central nervous system. It effects the child’s brain function in controlling emotion, learning ability and memory as well as social interaction. Today, one in six children is diagnosed with some forms of development and behaviour disorder. It is advised for parent to have their child diagnosed early, if they found that their child is withdrawing from social world, failing to learn the basic communication skill or struggle with emotional regulation, etc.. otherwise, a child may be at risk of becoming serious lifelong disability.

II. Most common types of brain development disorder

1. Autism disorder

Autism is one most common form of brain development disorder and one in 166 child is diagnosed with some forms of autism. It is defined as medical condition in which a child has some of the following impairments

a) Speech
b) Social and communication skills
c) Limited interest
d) Repetitive behaviour

2. Asperger syndrome

Children with Asperger syndrome has no problem with speech development, but have very poor social and communication skills. they may talk a lot, but fail to focus and keep up with the subject. they also have a very narrow interest as they may talk about only one single subject for months or years. Some children with Asperger syndrome may also engage in repetitive behaviour such as flagging hand.

3. Pervasive Development disorder

Children who have developed some or mild forms of autism are considered to have pervasive development disorder. Although some symptoms or important signs of autism are missing, they are likely to diagnoses with autism or Asperger syndrome later in their life.

4. Rett Syndrome

Rett syndrome effects mostly girl, is defined as a condition of which children lose social and communication skills as well as purposely use of their hand. It may also accompany with symptoms of hand repetitive and seizures.

5. Childhood integrative disorder

Children with childhood integrative disorder may gradually lose their language, social communication and self help skills between the period of 2 -4 years old.

6. Sensory integration dysfunction

Sensory integration dysfunction is a condition of which a child fails to react to the information collected from the scene, caused by abnormal brain function in processing information. Typically, most children with sensory integration syndrome may be under sensitive in reaction to pain or noise or over sensitive in reaction to certain environments such as noise, bright light or often both.

7. Auditory processing disorder

Auditory processing disorder is defined as damaging of the neurological structures and pathways of sound perception, therefore children with this disorder are able to hear sounds but have trouble to interpret what they hear.

8. Expressive language disorder

This is defined as a condition of which the children have a limited vocabulary and difficulty in recalling words or expressing themselves by using complex sentences.

9. Speech apraxia

It is caused by the broken down of the inter-reaction between the brain in controlling the speech muscles during speech. Children with speech appraxia know what they want to say, but can not speak through their voice and their words are difficult to understand.

10. Attention deficit hyperactivity

ADHD is defined as psychological condition of which a child has a poor attention skill, impulsive behavior and hyper-activity. The symptoms may appear to be innocent but annoying nuisances to other children. It effects between 3-5% of children globally and most of them are diagnosed later in their childhood life.

11. Attention deficit disorder

Unlike ADHD, children with attention deficit disorder are diagnosed only with symptoms of poor attention skill and impulsive behaviour. Although, the symptoms may appear only annoying to other children, it can inflict the learning ability of the children in the class.

12. Mental retardation

Metal retardation is considered as a generalized disorder. Children with mental retardation normally fail to adapt or adjust to another type of behaviour or situation. They also have a below average IQ ( 70 or lower) and difficulty in performing routine activity.

13. Hearing impairment

Hearing impairment is characterized as a child have a reduce of the ability to detect or understand sounds. Since the children can not hear well, it may interfere with normal progress of social and communication skills causing disruptive behaviour.

14. Seizure disorder (Epilepsy)

Since the normal function of neurons is to generate electrochemical impulses to act on other neurons, glands, and muscles to produce human thoughts, the damage or abnormal function of neurons in case of seizure disorder interferes with sensations, emotions, and behavior, resulting in delay or loss of social and communication skills.

15. Nonverbal learning disorder

The problems of the nonverbal learning disorder are not speech and memory, they may seem normal when they talk and understand what they hear, but in abstracted thinking such as non-verbal problem-solving, daily change of routine and social skills.

16. Traumatic brain injury

Traumatic brain injury normally caused by physical impacts such as car accident or lack of oxygen circulated in their body for a certain amount of time that damage certain areas of the brain in controlling speech, thinking, behaviour and social skills.

17. Fragile X syndrome

Fragile X syndrome is defined as a genetic defect. Children with this syndrome have difficult to control the physical, intellectual, emotional and behavioural aspects in their daily activity as resulting of inherited cause of mental retardation.

18. Tuberous sclerosis

This another type of genetic disease, which causes tumor to be growth in the brain and other organ, leading to seizure, delay development, behaviour problem and sometimes mental retardation.

19. William syndrome

William syndrome is a genetic defect, caused by a deletion of about 26 genes from the long arm of chromosome. Children with William syndrome appear to have unusual language skill and eager for social interaction, but can also be mental retardation and heart problems.

20. Angelman syndrome

This is a condition caused by deletion or inactivation of genes on the maternally inherited chromosome 15. Children with this type of syndrome have severe mental retardation that effect their intellectual and interfere with normal development. The syndrome also accompanies with unexplained smiling and laughing.

21. Prader-Willi syndrome

Prader-Will syndrome is also another genetic defect caused by missing or partial missing of the seven genes on chromosome 15. Children who was born with Prader-Willi syndrome have delay development and feeding difficulty in infancy and develop compulsive eating and food obsession after age one.

22. Phenylketonuria

Phenylketonuria is a genetically metabolic disorder caused by deficiency of phenylalanine hydroxylase, leading to accumulation of phenylalanine, interfering with development of the brain, causing severe brain damage, mental retardation if it is not controlled by a special diet in their early life.

23. Early-onset childhood bipolar disorder

It is also known as manic-depression. Children who are diagnosed with this disorder have symptoms of frequent mood swing, alternate thinking and behaviour .

24. Obsessive-compulsive disorder

Obsessive-compulsive disorder is characterized as a children life is disrupted by unwanted, unnecessary and repetitive thought, as well as an overwhelming need to do certain thing compulsively such as washing their hand many times a day, drinking a cup water before leaving home, etc.

25. Generalized anxiety disorder

It is a kind of anxiety disorder. Children with generalized anxiety disorder always worry about something, restlessness and fear without reason.

26. Selective mutism

Selective mutism is defined as another type of anxiety in which a child who is normally capable of speech is unable to speak or becomes silent in certain situations or in front of specific people.

27. Oppositional defiant disorder

Oppositional defiant disorder is defined as an ongoing pattern of uncooperative, disobedient, hostile and defiant behaviour toward parent and authority.

28. Pediatric autoimmune neuropsychiatric disorder association with streptococcal infection ( PANDAS)

It is defined as a condition in which the immune system attack the child central nervous system, leading to behaviour, thinking and movement problems.

29. Reactive attachment disorder

Reactive attachment disorder is defined as an inappropriate social behaviour caused by severe early experiences of neglect, abuse of parent or caregivers between the ages of six months and three years.

30. Schizophrenia

Schizophrenia is described as a mental disorder characterized by abnormalities in the perception or expression of reality caused by inability of a child to cope with the change in the internal or external environment, leading to hallucination and delusion.

The Health and Nutrition of Children

The subject of the health and nutrition of children and what exactly constitutes each one has often been debated. There are several schools of thought as to what makes a child healthy, and what completes a child’s nutrition. Though the debate continues on till today, one thing most nutritionists and doctors can agree on is that health and nutrition do go hand in hand. It can’t be said that one is more important than the other because they almost always come together.

According to the World Health Organization, health is being physically well and free from disease. Given that definition, the health and nutrition of children seems easy enough to achieve. While your children may be physically well and free from disease, however, it doesn’t mean that they are not on their way to the opposite. This is why healthy eating is given such a focus when it comes to good health. Healthy eating maintains your child’s physical well being and boosts their immune system to assure you that they will remain free from disease.

Nutrition, on the other hand is being able to provide a child’s body with all the necessary nutrients they need. This is also very easy to follow and nutrition of children is always within anyone’s reach. Many times parents turn to vitamins to make sure that their children get all the necessary nutrients. While vitamins are good, especially if your child cannot eat certain foods from which they can get certain vitamins, most children with healthy and balanced diets don’t need vitamins. Healthy food can provide your child with most if not all of what your child’s body needs.

Quite obviously, the health and nutrition of children go hand in hand. Healthy food provides proper nutrition, while being properly nourished provides a certain amount of good health. These two factors need each other, but it can only go so far. A third factor must come in, and that is exercise. To maintain a child’s health, they also need to get a good amount of exercise in order to strengthen their bones, muscles, and body systems. Exercise is one of the best ways to boost a child’s good health.

As a parent, you know that your child is getting enough good food that provides proper nutrition and enough exercise to keep them in good health through their behavior. The health and nutrition of children can come out in how they play, their general mood, and their physical appearance. Having a happy child who plays often, does well in school, and looks healthy with rosy cheeks and all is probably a child that is getting the proper nutrition and is absolutely healthy!